As members of the human family, we should show each other respect and courtesy. In our dealings with people of other faiths and beliefs this means exercising good will and:

• Respecting other people's freedom within the law to express their beliefs and convictions
• Learning to understand what others actually believe and value, and letting them express this in their own terms
• Respecting the convictions of others about food, dress and social etiquette and not behaving in ways which cause needless offence
• Recognising that all of us at times fall short of the ideals of our own traditions and never comparing our own ideals with other people's practices
• Working to prevent disagreement from leading to conflict
• Always seeking to avoid violence in our relationships

When we talk about matters of faith with one another, we need to do so with sensitivity, honesty and straightforwardness. This means:

• Recognising that listening as well as speaking is necessary for a genuine conversation
• Being honest about our beliefs and religious allegiances
• Not misrepresenting or disparaging other people's beliefs and practices
• Correcting misunderstanding or misrepresentations not only of our own but also of other faiths whenever we come across them
• Being straightforward about our intentions

Accepting that in formal inter faith meetings there is a particular responsibility to ensure that the religious commitment of all those who are present will be respected.All of us want others to understand and respect our views. Some people will also want to persuade others to join their faith. In a multi faith society where this is permitted, the attempt should always be characterised by self-restraint and a concern for the other's freedom and dignity.This means:

• Respecting another person's expressed wish to be left alone
• Avoiding imposing ourselves and our views on individuals or communities who are in vulnerable situations in ways which exploit these
• Being sensitive and courteous
• Avoiding violent action or language, threats, manipulation, improper inducements, or the misuse of any kind of power
• Respecting the right of others to disagree with usLiving and working together is not always easy. Religion harnesses deep emotions which can sometimes take destructive forms. Where this happens, we must draw on our faith to bring about reconciliation and understanding.

The truest fruits of religion are healing and positive. We have a great deal to learn from one another which can enrich us without undermining our own identities. Together, listening and responding with openness and respect, we can move forward to work in ways that acknowledge genuine differences but build on shared hopes and values.
 
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